How Would You Cope With An Insult? Tips To Overcome Insults

Insults: We all would have experienced being insulted on at least a few occasions in our lives. We feel so depressed and experience a lot of pains and unhappiness when somebody insults us. Nevertheless, great people have lived without getting affected by insults. They could cope up with insults very easily.

Buddha insulted: Once the Buddha had to go a small town to preach his principles and on his way, he crossed a few villages, where he met many people and shared his knowledge with them. When he was in a particular village a group of people who were against his teachings recognized him and started to abuse him with harsh and uncivilized words. Nevertheless, Buddha remained quite calm and unaffected. Their abuse and insults did not have any impact on him. They were astonished at this great quality.

Buddha managed insults: Thereby, they felt ashamed on themselves and asked him how it was possible for him to endure such insults. The Buddha told them," I was visiting a village just before coming here and some of my followers presented me with food and many gifts. I did not need anything and therefore they had to take back all the gifts with them. Similarly, I do not like those words you just hurled at me, you have to take them back too. Therefore I have no need to worry at all"

Coping with insults: There is really no need to worry when we are faced with having to cope with an insult in our life. Nobody is free of having to face insults in this world, at some time or the other in their lives, so why should we worry? However if there are any mistakes in ourselves we should try to correct them instead of brooding on the insults. It is far better to analyze the situation and learn how to overcome and correct our faults, than to look for specs in those who insulted us. We should in fact be thankful to those persons for pointing out our mistakes.

Summary: So, dear friends, when we are faced with any insult the next time, we will learn to cope with it and manage it diligently.

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How to Manage Stress? Tips to Cope with Stress and Anxiety?

Stress management ( the art of managing stress) : What is stress? It is nothing but losing control of events. The body registers stress by means of the hypothalamus interacting with the pituitary gland and by an incredible relay system of ‘stress hormones' produced by the adrenal glands called epinephrine or adrenaline, orchestrate the body's reaction to stress. Stress can be broadly classified into five different categories which can be interlinked and effect mental and emotional human behavior to a great extent. Some of the noticeable responses may include smoking, consuming inappropriate levels of alcohol, excessive eating of sugary food and substance abuse.

Effects of stress: Stress effects circulation and digestive systems, symptoms may include muscle spasms, nausea, ulcers, diarrhea, constipation, headaches, acne, eczema, psoriasis, shortness of breath, palpitations, clammy hands and cold feet. Stress related habits may include grinding of teeth, pacing, fidgeting, wringing of hands, crying, over spending, compulsive eating, and resulting weight gain. Others are insomnia, hyperventilation, lethargy and loss of attention to work.

Causes of stress: Instances are when stress can develop due to unexpected events beyond one's control, such as meeting with an accident, delays in meeting deadlines caused by external factors. Pressure of work, travel, mental trauma, family pressures, marriage related issues and any number of domestic or economic causes can trigger stress buildup. As stress can differ from person to person, it is important to observe and understand the underlying causes.

Stress management techniques:

Yoga: Yoga is an effective stress management tool made up of poses and postures and is an ancient tradition combining exercise and meditation practice dating back to a few thousand years.
Some of the types of Yoga are Yuma, Niamey, Asana, Panorama, Pratyahara, Dharana, Dhyana and Samadhi. Practicing Pranayama will largely help in managing daily stress. Pranayama is nothing but breathing exercises. It helps you keep your body and mind in harmony. It will help in developing a strong and calm mind. However, the techniques of yoga need to be learned under the guidance of a qualified professional to get best results. There are many Yoga institutes scattered all over the world and their resources are available to those interested in pursuing or practicing the subject.

Meditation: Meditation is an excellent technique to relax the restlessness of the mind from anxiety and stress. It can also help to attain spiritual growth. It is usual that a selection of soothing music
is played in the background while meditating contributing to being a calming factor. Experts can select the right kind of music if you are unable to choose for yourself as the selection of music is vital. Tai Chi Chuan, a combination of Chinese philosophy and exercise in slow harmonious movements is an excellent method to practice relaxation and alleviate stress. By applying manual pressure to muscles, joints and bones particularly the spine, head and neck,Chiropractors are able to relieve specific stress related tensions that cause nerve compression.

Satisfying sex: Having sex with your spouse is a natural way of removing daily stress. Favorite hobbies may prove to be the right tools of stress management. However it may differ from person to person. If gardening is a favorite hobby, it will help in managing daily stress.

Healthy food habits: Food habits play a vital role in stress management. Certain food and beverages have a calming effect, as in yeast extracts, whole grains, nuts and bananas which are rich in Vitamin B-6, also Vitamin C found in citrus fruit, bell peppers, cauliflower, broccoli, Brussels sprouts; herbal teas
such as peppermint, chamomile. Cultivate the habit of consuming natural foods in the form of fruit and vegetables more often as part of your food intake and avoid junk food. A balanced diet
is very essential for building your body and mind. Smoking enhances heartbeats and contributes to stress and should be avoided.

Laughter, the best medicine for stress: Laughter is another method of stress management. Watch comedy programs, read books on humor. Try to be around people who are humorous and entertaining. The main objective is to adept to stressful situations, keeping our bodies and minds clean and calm, learning to live by
coping with the factors that cause stress and avoid being a victim of it.

Summary: Stress can affect your physical and mental health. Therefore you should mange stress effectively with yoga, meditation, pranayama, soft music, fulfilling sex, laughter and clean eating habits. Thanks for reading.

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Desire, Cause of Sorrow? or Progress?

Desire: You all may know that Buddha preached that desire is the cause of all worldly sorrows. Can you agree on that? I think it's true that desires are the causes of all problems we get in life. However living without desire can mean there are no aims, no ambitions and no targets in life. Where will all this lead us to in this highly competitive technological era? Can you survive in this modern world  if you don't have any desires to come up in life? Please keep reading.....

Desire, cause for inventions: Every invention is born from desire and ambition. If the scientists did not have the zeal to invent new things, you will not be reading this article now . Therefore, it is obvious that we must have desires to win in life.

Our desire started even before the birth: Our desire started when we were a sperm cell, swam via chemo taxis, and successfully reached the ovum. We had the desire to reach the ovum and that desire caused our births, isn't it so? This desire process continues until death, though the intensity of desire differs in individuals and in  distinctive matters.

Bhagavad Gita on desires: Bhagavad Gita teaches you to remove all your desires. It does not mean you can't aspire for a good job, make big money or enjoy a happy married life. Nevertheless Bhagavad-Gita says ‘do your duty, without bothering much about the results'. Here again, we are confused.  How can we go on working without bothering about the results? What it actually means is that  we should not lose our balance when we don't get the expected results. If we lose our control the efficiency in our work will be affected considerably which in turn will produce a negative effect on future results. If we have the maturity of mind to be focused and work hard continuously, we will no doubt be able to achieve our goals in a big way one day. At the same time if we get huge success we should allow pride to rule us in anyway. So, friends, let us experience and feed our desires and work hard to achieve our goals. Let us continue our efforts until we achieve the desired results. The world is beautiful, let us make our life more beautiful.

Summary: Buddha said that desires are the causes of all worries in this world. Bhagavad Gita also said that we should get rid of all our desires. However the real recommendations of Buddha and Bhagavad Gita don't actually deny your genuine desires in life. However you should keep on doing your duty without having the desires to get positive results. Besides if you are successful in your goals, you should not let pride rule you. Thanks for reading.

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